by
marcia on May 28, 2010 at 7:05 AM
Our world and our lives are always changing and our most valuable life-prolonging talent is our ability to adapt. Many people have learned new ways to deal with the economic conditions and possible job loss or career changes. Filings for divorces and bankruptcies are at a peak. On a lighter note, spring is also the time that we move outdoors for activities, change out our clothes closets, and students graduate to the next phase of their education. Sometimes major life transitions can be positive, such as a new family member, new job, selected retirement, moving to a new home. Many are not: a major illness or death in the family, divorce, downsizing. Any big life change can lead to an overwhelming sense of physical and mental clutter. Change causes fear that can lead to the “shut down” of decision-making. Stress brings on physical symptoms, compounding the difficulties. Ironically, people who’ve led the most stable lives are generally thrown harder since they have had less experience with the world shifting beneath their feet. The result can be mountains of clutter and emotional crisis. Here are 5 tips for managing transition:
- Try to keep a balanced outlook and avoid quick decisions and rash actions. Know that this feeling is normal and expected, and you will be better equipped after some time has passed and equilibrium is regained.
- Use your support systems. Get advice from legal, financial, medical or other professionals when needed. Talk with your pastor. You need more opinions than just your own, but don’t deny your instincts when determining the best options.
- Avoid analysis-paralysis by writing down goals and trying to maintain structure in decision-making.
- A strong social network is your sounding board. They provide warmth, empathy or more physical assistance. There’s nothing like a friend with a truck!
- Remind yourself that this is a chance to GROW, not just GO through a momentous experience. The life lessons will help you next time, and your confidence level will go up immediately once you’re mastered this transition.
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